I’m 16 and my parents never let me go out to parties with my friends. I’m thinking of sneaking out at night. I don’t want to get in trouble but I don’t always want to be the one who misses the fun. – Cindy*
Sam says: This is tricky territory, because I understand how frustrating it is but I also know how dangerous it can be. The number of things that can go wrong with sneaking out is scary. Not to mention the fact that if it does, your parents won’t know where you are to help you. I suggest sitting them down and talking about their fears. Find a common ground that’s comfortable for everybody involved – maybe you can keep in cellphone contact with them, or they can drop you off wherever the party is. Let them know exactly what you’re doing and when you’ll be back. Tell them you’re responsible enough not to betray or lie to them, and that this is something you would like respected. Have your parents ever met your friends? And their parents? Getting to know who you hang out with may assuage their worries.