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LOVE HURTS
15 Dec 2011 by admin in Advice / No Comments
I was in a relationship with a guy I loved but enjoyed hurting. He broke up with me last month, but I can’t forget him and I feel so jealous whenever I see him with another girl. Am I normal? – Janice*
Sam says: I’m not really surprised he broke up with you. If you actually enjoy physically or emotionally hurting someone you claim to love, there is a strong possibility you have trauma in your own life that needs healing. Often, when we’re hurting on the inside, we lash out at those closest to us and sometimes even want to make them hurt as much as we do. Sometimes, if we’re sad or very angry, we push people away by being mean to them, so they can’t hurt us. That may sound weird, but it happens all the time. So, do I think you’re normal? Yes. But I don’t think this is a healthy, happy way to live a life. I think you’re going to have to deal with your jealousy and start working on you. By that, I mean dealing with why you feel the need to hurt those you love. It might benefit you greatly to speak to a counsellor about what you are feeling.
*Names have been changed
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